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Men's Group Practice

Current Practice

Weekly men's group calls/gatherings. Brothers who mirror, challenge, support, and hold me accountable. This is where I bring my edges, my shadows, my growth.

Lineage/Teachers

• Rooted in transpersonal facilitation lineage through
• Inspired by
  format I'm teaching

Frequency

• Current: Weekly (need to confirm actual rhythm)
• Ideal: Weekly minimum, with quarterly in-person gatherings

Why This Practice

Because "there is no salvation in isolation." Men need other men. The work of becoming integrated, authentic, on purpose doesn't happen alone.

This is where:

• I get mirrored on my blind spots
• I practice speaking truth even when it's uncomfortable
• I receive the gift of being challenged by brothers
• I'm held accountable to my commitments
• I witness other men's journey (which is also my own)

Evolution

• Started my first men's group after losing my best friend to cancer
• That first group challenged me to "speak up because they couldn't hear me"
• Realized being a "good boy" was hindering my growth
• Now facilitate men's work myself (Peru retreat, coaching)
• The student became the teacher, but still needs his own group

Integration Markers

How do you know it's working? What shifts?

• I speak up more readily, even when uncomfortable
• Less isolation, more willingness to be vulnerable
• Patterns get named faster (healer pattern with Lauren caught early)
• My coaching work is informed by what I learn in the group
• I bring the medicine I receive to the men I serve

Challenges

• Time zones (currently in Peru, men might be elsewhere)
• Internet connection issues (like today with Nathan Campbell)
• Tendency to focus on helping others vs receiving help myself
• Bringing the hard stuff vs only showing my "together" self

Support Structures

What makes this practice possible?

• Committed brothers who show up consistently
• Container agreements (confidentiality, no advice unless asked, etc.)
• 's teaching on how to hold space
• Technology (Zoom/calls) when in-person isn't possible
• My own willingness to be vulnerable

Related Practices

• - The silent retreat work complements men's work
• - Often incorporated in men's gatherings
• - Processing plant medicine with brothers
• - What I learn here informs my client work

Notes & Insights

From Codex Vitae: "I lean on my men's group, as well as my teachers like Amir Khalighi and brothers like Garrett Rokosh."

Pattern Recognition: When I started men's group, I was challenged to speak up. Now I facilitate groups. The medicine I needed became the medicine I offer. This is the cycle.

Current Edge (Jan 2026): Need to bring the healer pattern with Lauren to the group. Get mirrored on it. Stop trying to figure it out alone.

Topics to Bring to Next Call

• Healer pattern with Lauren (see
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• Internet rage revealing control patterns
• Gap between vision (stable practice) and reality (unstable infrastructure)
• How to love Lauren AS SHE IS vs her potential

Last practiced: Weekly (need specific date) Next call: TBD

Related Notes

• - Teacher lineage
• - Brother
• - How I'm now teaching this
• - Current work to bring to group
• - Current context affecting practice
• - Men's group is part of support system for vision