Understanding Attachment Styles and Their Impact on Children

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After spending the last week up at Anderson Lake and being in the presence of a new baby, what I'm noticing is the attachment styles that get evoked in us from a young age through the way we are taught to associate with others. And kids, children will pick up the attachment imprints from their parents. So if the parents allow the babies to connect with others, to be co-regulated by others and not just themselves, that creates a trust in the baby that they can be with other people and their need to always be in the presence of their parents, which creates trust, it creates safety, it creates confidence, and it creates connection. On the other hand, if the parent has a hard time letting go of the child, the child begins to pick up on that, and the child begins to pick up energies from the parents in a very subconscious, nefarious way. And the child has a harder time individuating from the parent and their attachment style. This shows up in the form of that child ending up having a harder time being alone, having a harder time being with others, and really having moments of panic when they're by themselves, without their parents. So just an idea of how to find the balance of our own attachment styles as adults and how to work with them in a way where we don't enable or we don't imprint those same wounds onto our kids. ^rwhi903816855