20. Practicing the Three Stages of Intimacy and Self-Expression in Every Moment W/ Nina Lombardo

Highlights

Defining Devotion

• Nina Lombardo defines devotion as orienting oneself towards something greater and directing love, energy, and attention towards it.
• Devotion can be directed to various aspects, including spiritual beliefs, motherhood, work, art, or personal projects.
• It involves aligning one's life, attention, energy, and love with the chosen focus.
• John Wineland adds that devotion is reflected in what you dedicate your time and attention to. (via) ^rwhi912858388

Reorienting Devotion

• Evaluate where you focus your time and attention.
• Redirect devotion from habits to more fulfilling, expansive pursuits. (via) ^rwhi912867006

Three Stages of Relating

• David Deida's three stages are evolutionary and occur moment to moment.
• They encompass personal survival, individual growth, and embodying love. (via) ^rwhi912867020

Reaching Third Stage

• To reach the third stage, build a strong foundation, like practicing scales on a piano.
• This allows for freer expression of love and artful improvisation. (via) ^rwhi912867021

Handling Difficult Feelings

• Don't suppress difficult feelings in relationships, even if they don't feel "third stage".
• Acknowledge them, communicate them, and seek validation from your partner. (via) ^rwhi912867022